Fresh starts happen to people – usually unexpectedly, and often the result of negative, unwanted circumstances which are thrust upon them. They are rarely planned events in anyone’s lives. Examples of these negative circumstances include divorce and loss of a job.
Bandara, herself, went through such experiences and turned the negativity into the best thing that happened to her. She now helps women deal with significant life changes and crises to discover authenticity and live a life of purpose.
One important part of going through a a life changing event is the loss of identity that often happens as a result of the event.
Bandara shares, “If people have been doing the same job for a long time, or if they have been in a relationship for a long time, they start attaching their identity to that. I’m someone’s wife. Or I am the manager of this, or that. Their whole identity starts getting built around their roles in life.
When circumstances happen that force them out of where they are, then that’s an uncomfortable situation and they no longer have the context to define themselves. And when they are left like that, they get what I call stripped down bare. You get stripped naked again to the absolute essential, quintessential you – who you are.”
She helps people not only rediscover themselves when they lose their identity, but they actually also recover their identity. It can be a very overwhelming situation where they don’t know what to do or where to go from where they are. Most women also don’t know where to start. This is where the fresh start coaching comes in.
One of the first things Bandara helps her clients do is establish who they are – who their authentic self is. It is often the case that the job or the role they were playing was not a good fit for them. They start to realize that perhaps the situation they were in was a blessing in disguise.
According to Bandara, “Most of my clients would find it difficult to believe at the start, but when they work through it and when they start finding those hidden gems that they had inside, that they hadn’t paid attention to – they find there are other gifts inside of them that they can discover.
They could be a really gifted writer but they put that aside to become a housewife or maybe to become a business analyst or whatever role that they’ve chosen in life.
All of a sudden, they start to see possibilities. And that’s exciting.”
Bandara has found her own true calling to be helping others find the silver lining in what had appeared to be their life’s darkest clouds. This engaging interview is sure to enlighten many about their own need for a positive fresh start.
Hear the full interview at: http://influencersradio.com/rachel-bandara-making-the-most-of-your-fresh-start/
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